A bridesmaid has revealed how the bride has organized a ‘humiliating’ and ‘inappropriate’ sleeping arrangement at her wedding – prompting people to suggest she drop out of the event.

Taking to Reddit, the anonymous woman, who appears to be from the US, revealed that she is traveling solo to attend her friend’s ceremony, which is being held at a remote villa abroad. 

However, rather than getting her own room, the bride-to-be decided to place the bridesmaid in a room with a couple, leaving her feeling awkward and ‘less-than’.

The bridesmaid explained that she wouldn’t consider the couple ‘close friends, just acquaintances’ and that sharing a room with them would make her feel like a ‘third wheel’. 

Adding fuel to the fire, the woman outlined the numerous financial and personal sacrifices she’s already made to attend the wedding, including costly flights, a pricey dress, bachelorette party expenses, and time off work to accommodate the weekday nuptials.

Despite these commitments, the sleeping arrangements have left her feeling isolated and uncomfortable, especially considering the lack of nearby hotels in the rural location. 

The post read: ‘I am a bridesmaid for my friend’s upcoming destination wedding. She and her fiancé are renting out a villa for two nights for all guests. 

‘As I’m traveling solo (one of the very few guests not in a couple, though I can think of at least two other women), she’s allocated me to share a room with… a couple. For two nights. These aren’t close friends, just acquaintances.

‘This comes on top of quite a few sacrifices already, including spending hundreds (on flights, dress, bachelorette, gifts at various points, hotel before and after the villa), taking three days off work for as it is a weekday wedding, and being directed to what to wear as a bridesmaid but covering own costs.

‘I just feel awkward and somewhat humiliated at the thought of being a third wheel and honestly just feeling less-than for being single in a couple’s room for two nights, it’s not at all what I imagined when agreeing to be her bridesmaid. I’ve looked and there aren’t hotels around in this rural area.’

The bride, who was said to have acknowledged that the arrangement ‘wasn’t ideal’, offered it as a solution after struggling to accommodate all the guests in the villa’s limited rooms, some of which are designed for three people. 

The bridesmaid continued: ‘She said the sleeping arrangement has been very tricky to arrange, so do I still push back and tell her I’m not comfortable with this arrangement and ask for an alternative – if that is even feasible? Or is this just one of those things you’re supposed to suck up because “it’s a wedding”?’

The post quickly gained attention, with commenters advising her to assert her boundaries, with some even suggesting she should back out of the wedding completely.

One said: ‘That is completely unacceptable! How could anyone even think that’s ok? I would love to know the couple’s thoughts on this.

‘If it were me I would tell the bride she can either arrange for me to have my own room, or she can replace me as a bridesmaid and a guest.’

Another said: ‘I would absolutely draw the line here. I would maybe consider it if I was being roomed with (my) family or a couple that I was close enough friends with that I would feel comfortable with that arrangement but sleeping in a room with barely more than strangers would just be a no for me, even if I hadn’t already bent over all the way backwards for this ungrateful bridezilla.’

Someone else added: ‘Yes, push back. Ask if you can room with the two other solo travelers or to please book you your own room. 

‘Also, add this is unacceptable. Say, if she can’t arrange proper accommodations then she needs to reimburse you for travels expenses and dress because you won’t be attending.’

A fourth added: ‘I would absolutely draw the line at this arrangement. Not only is it super awkward for you but I’m sure the couple might have something to say as well! 

‘This lodging is the bride’s selection and it clearly doesn’t make sense at all for her mix of guests. 

‘I would not be surprised if this causes a bit of chaos when everybody gets there only to find out how bonkers the sleeping plan is. The bride has to make this right.’

Another agreed said: ‘Absolutely not. I would not agree to room with a couple or a man who is a stranger or just an acquaintance.

‘I don’t get why couples have weddings where the entourage and guests have to sacrifice so much for the couple’s vision. 

‘No one forced them to marry, to have a certain theme, and to invite people. They shouldn’t make their entourage and guests jump through hoops for them when just attending a normal wedding already takes much time and effort.

‘Also, if it’s a destination wedding and guests will pay for their own transportation (and accommodation in some instances), couples should be considerate enough not to expect and to tell guests that no gifts are needed because the guests are spending so much already.’

Another said: ‘Look. Being a bridesmaid is meant to be an honor not a human sacrifice. I can’t imagine anyone would be comfortable sharing a room with a couple they barely know. 

‘If anyone drinks too much or isn’t cool (which you aren’t even friends with them so you don’t know) you could be in for a very rough night.

‘I would just tell the bride you aren’t comfortable being in the wedding any more. Don’t be dramatic. And anyone who acts like you are being dramatic is welcome to take your place in the weird threesome room.’