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A 30-year-old woman is torn about moving out of her family home after her mom kicked up a fuss.

In a post on Reddit’s Am I The A—— forum, the woman explained that she has always lived with her mother and older brother despite having a “great salary” that she could afford to move out on. She said her mom “guilts” her every time she mentions the possibility of leaving the family home.

When she finally started looking for somewhere to rent earlier this year, the search had to be put off because her mom stopped working due to a workplace injury and her grandfather died.

The woman said she was pleasantly surprised when a property management company contacted her after years on their waitlist to say that a two-bedroom apartment had become available in the complex she wanted.

“I immediately told them yes and texted my mom in excitement,” the woman said. “Needless to say, she’s pissed. Like literally isn’t speaking to me.”

The woman said that her mom is waiting for a settlement on her injury claim and has been advised by doctors that she might need to apply for disability. Meanwhile, her brother is on a “fixed income,” therefore leaving her as the breadwinner of the household.

She added that they don’t have a mortgage because her brother owns their family home, but he would need to take over paying the power bill and buying groceries once she moves out.

“I have every intention of continuing to pay the (other) bills, I already pay (Starlink internet, water, and phone) until my mom either gets her settlement or starts receiving disability,” the woman said. “She doesn’t know this is my plan because she immediately started giving me the cold shoulder rather than talk to me.”

Curious for other Redditors’ opinions, she asked, “AITA (am I the a——-) if I move out? Should I wait to move out until she gets her settlement or disability? If I wait to move out it’s unlikely I’ll be able to find a unit as nice as the one currently available for me.”

“The units with this property management company never stay available for long, especially in the complex I’m on the waitlist for,” she added.

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The post garnered hundreds of comments, with the majority of people advising the woman to go ahead with signing on the apartment.

“Take the apartment and enjoy your life,” one person commented. “It’s very kind of you to continue helping your mom after you move out, but that doesn’t mean you have to give up this wonderful opportunity to have a place of your own that you love. NTA (not the a——).”

“NTA, this sounds like a dream apartment and you’ll regret not taking the chance,” another chimed in. “If your mom doesn’t want to talk to you, I’d reconsider paying the bills.”

“NTA. It’s unfortunate your mom is going through that,” a third wrote. “But imo (in my opinion) there will always be a reason for you to not move out. Prioritizing your wants and needs for once doesn’t make you a bad person. They are adults and they will be fine without you living in the same space.”